tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post5392813546315707098..comments2023-06-07T03:18:27.705-07:00Comments on Enchanted Oak: Learning About DyingEnchanted Oakhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14815997287116818456noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-18855028141901444682010-06-05T06:59:26.257-07:002010-06-05T06:59:26.257-07:00I came for the Sepia Sat post and read through you...I came for the Sepia Sat post and read through your other stories and writings; I relate to your feelings and descriptions of the stages and the dementia. Sending prayers your way for strength. <br /><br /> We were blessed than Mom died suddenly of a heart attack in 2004 as her Alzheimer's was progressing and the years ahead would not have been good. Just returned from PA & my uncle Carl, 92 in assisted living with dementia that comes and goes..It seems to me we are the first generation to watch this terrible disease in our parents and relatives....to me it is worse than cancer or anything--it robs them of their mind.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09093078029028920810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-53081377683293698762010-06-03T14:54:38.529-07:002010-06-03T14:54:38.529-07:00This hits so close to home, I almost had to stop r...This hits so close to home, I almost had to stop reading. Having just lived this and watching my own mother go through each of these stages, memories flooded back. Take care, my friend.Monkey Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06741294113777908130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-71095248384883640112010-06-03T13:21:52.744-07:002010-06-03T13:21:52.744-07:00Thank you Chris. That's an insight into somet...Thank you Chris. That's an insight into something I haven't been through, and I value the knowledge and experience you've shared here.<br />Beautifully written, and as Elisabeth said, it was fearless writing that has taken fear away.<br /><br />My thoughts and prayers.Titushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16380213493011623153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-24012779107396862562010-06-03T12:30:11.902-07:002010-06-03T12:30:11.902-07:00Oh my god! I just want to cry. When my grandmother...Oh my god! I just want to cry. When my grandmother passed away in September I did not know about dying at all. The staff in the nursing home tried to tell me a little bit here and there, but they didn't word it the way you did, so directly. I remember the cold hands, the end of eating, the lack of talking. I didn't know that she couldn't talk though, I thought she'd just run out of things to say. On Thursday she said her last words to me, on Sunday she had nothing left, and on Monday she died. Sorry this is so long... so sad.<br /><br />May you find peace Chris, really. May you have strength, peace, and comfort in this time and onward.Tarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05869180495920803462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-22212449724022888772010-06-03T11:10:24.953-07:002010-06-03T11:10:24.953-07:00Chris...
Very touching.
Super attitude.
You are a ...Chris...<br />Very touching.<br />Super attitude.<br />You are a wonderful daughter!g-manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05597285773359986622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-30546680499802206882010-06-03T10:37:36.427-07:002010-06-03T10:37:36.427-07:00chris you make my heart hurt and my face smile...i...chris you make my heart hurt and my face smile...i hope that how ever much time you have left is filled with happy momentsBrian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-24860243050758532702010-06-03T09:39:35.041-07:002010-06-03T09:39:35.041-07:00This so beautiful, Chris. I think perhaps that the...This so beautiful, Chris. I think perhaps that the best we can ask for is to be welcomed into loving arms when we are born and to be allowed to die gracefully from the same. Bless you.Nana Johttp://ananasjourney.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-768895321581472882010-06-03T09:13:48.545-07:002010-06-03T09:13:48.545-07:00Thinking of you, of her... and sending strength, p...Thinking of you, of her... and sending strength, peace and prayers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-49061385941924730152010-06-03T08:11:49.105-07:002010-06-03T08:11:49.105-07:00Hard for me to read this without tears welling up ...Hard for me to read this without tears welling up - taking me back to my dad's deathbed not so long ago.<br /><br />KatKat Mortensenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16877694888419628533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-32095368293153567772010-06-03T07:49:54.308-07:002010-06-03T07:49:54.308-07:00You have a little more time to be with you mother ...You have a little more time to be with you mother it seems. I like that people around her find humor in the things that she says and are not horrified. Bless her heart, she is going through another change in her life and my hope is that she is just able to enjoy the ride and not be frightened.CiCihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08615265608675467505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-89662845163971031512010-06-03T06:54:58.175-07:002010-06-03T06:54:58.175-07:00I can't tell you how beautiful this was to rea...I can't tell you how beautiful this was to read without making it about my own experience. Reading this has given me great comfort about all the things I wondered about when my Dad passed away in palliative care. It happened quickly and no one ever sat down to tell us what he was experiencing. It's give me comfort to know that even though he wasn't awake he could still hear us talking to him. No one told us that. Thank you so much. I hope you feel witnessed the way this post made me feel witnessed. Big gentle hugs and prayers to you and your family. - GAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-56157751639552558952010-06-03T06:21:22.546-07:002010-06-03T06:21:22.546-07:00This is so true. You are seeing the veil between ...This is so true. You are seeing the veil between the two worlds.<br /> <br />I am with you....Diannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18323454057921441274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-17616536961847663292010-06-03T06:00:25.484-07:002010-06-03T06:00:25.484-07:00I continue to send prayers for your Mom's easi...I continue to send prayers for your Mom's easiest crossing, and for peace and understanding for the rest of you and your family.<br /><br />This is a good post, Chris, dying happens just like this. I'm so glad you understand the process. And that you have written about it so well here for others to understand.<br /><br />Hang in there.Marionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00607220451457829777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-67300004981365457952010-06-03T05:44:55.278-07:002010-06-03T05:44:55.278-07:00We visited my husband's mother in the nursing ...We visited my husband's mother in the nursing home this past weekend (you can see a picture of them on my post from Tuesday night) & we marveled at how well she was doing. She knew who we were & was reminiscing about the past. Last night we got a call from her sister & apparently she had had some mini strokes the night before & lost the function of her arms & eyes. We don't know the extent of the damage yet, but I wouldn't be surprised if her body didn't start the process you're describing here. I like your description - it's comforting somehow.The Bughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07509037206264761261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-24986848380432094942010-06-03T04:49:14.201-07:002010-06-03T04:49:14.201-07:00It is a special time, this time for saying goodbye...It is a special time, this time for saying goodbye. You write about the process so thoughtfully. It takes some of the fear away. <br /><br />It is nevertheless a sad time. My thoughts are with you.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-46033451222443516222010-06-03T03:47:39.204-07:002010-06-03T03:47:39.204-07:00Chris, such a loving and touching post on such a d...Chris, such a loving and touching post on such a difficult topic as death is. I pray for your mom can have the easiest crossing over on the other side. Sending love.Birdiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09891761282823761830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-74163543575029029512010-06-03T03:46:34.226-07:002010-06-03T03:46:34.226-07:00I find some comfort in knowing these things and ho...I find some comfort in knowing these things and how the body's physiology works. Yet, all that you describe points towards wanting to keep the cells and organs alive. And that is the sad part to me--that the cells keep doing what cells do until they simply can't anymore. <br /><br />Dying has been on my mind lately. I'm glad that your mother has had a good long life. And that her pain will be relieved. Take care Chris.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-52693116346337509992010-06-03T03:09:22.620-07:002010-06-03T03:09:22.620-07:00I am sending my prayers and thoughts for you, your...I am sending my prayers and thoughts for you, your mom, and your family. I am hoping she makes her way to heaven in her own time.<br /><br />We have tried to get my mom to do an Advance Directive and have had no success, so I am thankful for you that your mom has done this. <br /><br />I will continue to pray for you both.<br /><br />God bless.Mrsupolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01563854387767106508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-32239487229818144752010-06-03T02:56:37.740-07:002010-06-03T02:56:37.740-07:00What a thoughtful and moving post. It's a diff...What a thoughtful and moving post. It's a difficult balance to achieve. It is indeed strange how life eventually prepares us for death.Alan Burnetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01015127443616786425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-52177697363375251762010-06-03T02:31:10.870-07:002010-06-03T02:31:10.870-07:00Your description of the physical preparation bring...Your description of the physical preparation brings back so much for me, Chris. Until you've gone through this with someone, you can't know what this dying is all about. I pray your mother will go quickly. <br />xoxoKarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12003379181294550035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-52480231586275023612010-06-03T02:09:14.434-07:002010-06-03T02:09:14.434-07:00I needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing.I needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com