tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post8652472043805116253..comments2023-06-07T03:18:27.705-07:00Comments on Enchanted Oak: Time to Give UpEnchanted Oakhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14815997287116818456noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-2659705791529733372010-07-20T20:56:18.557-07:002010-07-20T20:56:18.557-07:00Chris, I think that following your head and heart ...Chris, I think that following your head and heart will get you the answer you need. If the two can be in balance, then I know my direction is clear. Good luck with this. Advocating for those who can't speak for themselves is a good thing.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-51330635304939731972010-07-19T07:19:02.235-07:002010-07-19T07:19:02.235-07:00I'm so sorry you aren't getting anywhere r...I'm so sorry you aren't getting anywhere right now. I hope that someone somewhere takes notice of what happened and what you are trying to do. Sadly, elder abuse and neglect, still seems to be 'invisible' in society these days, so trying to find support to fight an injustice at the hands of supposed helping professionals must be doubly hard. I pray that you have the strength to keep ding what feels like the right thing to do, whatever that feels like to you. Take care. - GAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-74188157004140184062010-07-19T04:57:24.267-07:002010-07-19T04:57:24.267-07:00I so understand what the 'struggle' as I l...I so understand what the 'struggle' as I live a similar situation - yet! I think that if we all always accept the wrongness done on us or our families etc. not only things will never change but they will worsen ... I support you in your decision not to let it be ... but be aware not to get 'eaten up' by it ... hugsBirdiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09891761282823761830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-6350213842299932582010-07-18T16:32:38.167-07:002010-07-18T16:32:38.167-07:00Knowing if and when its time to stop pursuing a go...Knowing if and when its time to stop pursuing a goal is tough. Maybe it is time to "let go and let God". Let Him know the desires of your heart and put the outcome in His capable and loving hands. Doors may open and people may reach out to you...or maybe not. The trick then is to be okay with whatever the outcome is. <br />You're such a strong person. Praying for comfort and peace for you, NancyMagpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01132555347136919591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-32897732280195193592010-07-18T15:29:05.625-07:002010-07-18T15:29:05.625-07:00I have learned that once I have taken "ALL&qu...I have learned that once I have taken "ALL" the actions I can find to take, then I must leave the results up to God.<br /><br />My prayers are with you in your efforts.<br /><br />PGOne Prayer Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17455437909918314217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-33167278208010052642010-07-18T11:40:04.345-07:002010-07-18T11:40:04.345-07:00I try to base my decisions these days on one quest...I try to base my decisions these days on one question: how will my actions effect my sobriety? If I continually placed myself under a lot of stress, I risk losing my emotional sobriety and ultimately, I believe I will drink and/or die. For me, recovery is a life or death situation. I also pray to God a lot to "show me the truth." Have you done a 4th step on the situation yet?mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01700941649031924777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-7901856474944760442010-07-18T09:57:21.830-07:002010-07-18T09:57:21.830-07:00Tough one, Chris. Have you tried sending a letter ...Tough one, Chris. Have you tried sending a letter to the Op/Ed page of your local or to the nearest large circulation daily? You know the PR biz. Maybe it's time to excalate beyond the blog.Monkey Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06741294113777908130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-18820201122853948042010-07-18T09:33:33.414-07:002010-07-18T09:33:33.414-07:00It's the process and the path, keep that in mi...It's the process and the path, keep that in mind.<br /><br />on a technical note, the "palliative" and "comfort" care that are provided may seem as life-giving, but not technically life saving. like Oxygen via a nose tube, or antibiotics, or a temporary tube with liquid nutrition. I don't know how it is broken down ethically, I would like to. but comfort care is definitely a technical term with family involved. I am told a systemic infection and high fever is not a difficult road in the end,Diannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18323454057921441274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-23556365776889037462010-07-18T07:56:27.876-07:002010-07-18T07:56:27.876-07:00Ms. Anthropy asks a good question. Current laws se...Ms. Anthropy asks a good question. Current laws see to it that a DNR order (Do Not Resuscitate) is pretty well flagged in a medical chart, if a bracelet is worn or it's posted on a refrigerator at home or handed to emergency personnel. <br />An advance directive, however, isn't considered an order, and it is less likely to be prominently recorded in a medical chart. Directives leave a lot of medical decisions to the discretion of the treating personnel. <br />If you're under the care of hospice, you have significant protection from unwanted treatment. If you aren't, you have very little protection.Enchanted Oakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14815997287116818456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-13907568925115021672010-07-18T07:41:06.673-07:002010-07-18T07:41:06.673-07:00You said it all in the first quote, Chris: "...You said it all in the first quote, Chris: "~ You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don't try. ~Beverly Sills<br /><br />Yes, the BB reads to "cease fighting everyone and everything, even alcohol." But ya know, there is SOMETHING in there also, about "helping others"...RIGHT?<br /><br />Either way it finally is resolved, you will know you did YOUR PART! (So EASY to "quit"....<br /><br />PEACE!steveronihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17498524940140288735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-79029142947234812252010-07-18T06:28:50.856-07:002010-07-18T06:28:50.856-07:00You just have to do what you believe is right for ...You just have to do what you believe is right for you. No one else can have an opinion about that. We can only wish you success as you continue to pursue what you believe is the right thing to for your mother.CiCihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08615265608675467505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-25071450052142114212010-07-18T06:12:19.575-07:002010-07-18T06:12:19.575-07:00This is one of the many great disappointments abou...This is one of the many great disappointments about our government. We live in a great country and I love my country but I hate how our country treats its infirm and elderly.<br /><br />I will pray for you and mom Chris. I dunno what I can do to help but I will pray at the least. God bless ya!Scott M. Freyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11588618061480681504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-33056764487091611942010-07-18T05:40:00.886-07:002010-07-18T05:40:00.886-07:00I understand how tiring seeking legal help for a s...I understand how tiring seeking legal help for a situation such as this must be, Chris, but I hope you keep on keeping on. There are so many patients who need an advocate; you wouldn't believe some of the stories I've been told as a hospice volunteer.<br /><br />It takes a village to move a mountain, so it's said. Are there others you can contact who would join in with you in seeking help? Other people's relatives who were wronged in such a manner?Changing the way things are could take a long time, but if we all walk around with our heads covered in dark blankets, one of these days it could be one of us whose wishes are ignored.<br /><br />Whatever you do, be it little or big, it will be of future help to those who come after.Knowledge is so important!Marionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00607220451457829777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-20764662791941262202010-07-18T03:07:42.751-07:002010-07-18T03:07:42.751-07:00follow it to the depth of your conviction...
hope...follow it to the depth of your conviction...<br /><br />hope you are having a nice weekend chris!Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-73394933679437311402010-07-18T01:54:37.511-07:002010-07-18T01:54:37.511-07:00Read this somewhere:
"Don't give up thou...Read this somewhere:<br /><br />"Don't give up though the pace seems slow<br />You may succeed with another blow. <br />Success is failure turned inside out <br />The silver tint of the clouds of doubt. "<br /><br />Fight because the reason is imperative...<br />Sometimes adversity is what you need to get through..I am sure u will and I pray you would...<br />Please do not give up...You are almost there...:):)<br /><br />~Heartfelt wishes<br /> From somewhere<br /> From someone<br /> Who wants u to give it 1 more tryErratic Thoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14852558150033296079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-78936897659637204022010-07-18T00:42:11.121-07:002010-07-18T00:42:11.121-07:00I'm sorry to hear what you went through with y...I'm sorry to hear what you went through with your Mom and the hospital. I assume that was in CA? Not good to know when many of us have Directives. But I've heard this before. My question though why did the care facility not notify you when she was taken to the hospital. Seems their responsiblity was to do so as she went out the door. <br /><br />Unless it costs you a bunch, I would persue it until you got some satisfaction.Linda Pendletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04333787752335329007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-14127069968330297472010-07-18T00:33:55.500-07:002010-07-18T00:33:55.500-07:00You have more energy than I do, Chris. I wish you...You have more energy than I do, Chris. I wish you would succeed in this since we are all getting up there in age and this might affect all of us one of these days. <br /><br />My mom had emergency surgery a week ago Friday for a bowel obstruction. She did very well and is already back at her assisted living facility. Poor thing, though, she didn't have a clue what was going on.RNSANEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02841873957894861725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-10917645233594726852010-07-17T23:10:48.291-07:002010-07-17T23:10:48.291-07:00I'm curious to know if your mother is wearing ...I'm curious to know if your mother is wearing a DNR bracelet or if she qualifies for hospice?Ms. Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06263882972749791087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7574822672391090343.post-6522997733448701812010-07-17T22:26:39.083-07:002010-07-17T22:26:39.083-07:00I don't have much in concrete resources or adv...I don't have much in concrete resources or advice to give you - but I would like to refer you to a wonderful blog that I think you'd like: www.37days.com<br /><br />Patti is a wonderful writer and poet, like you. Her blog always teaches me something, causes me to stop and reflect, and renews my spirit. If you need some cheering and support to trust your intuition, visit 37 days. Life is a Verb. PeggyPeggyhttp://www.peglud.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com