Wednesday, January 20, 2010

The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Random Image Series, II

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The Good

There's a little bad and a little good in most things. For me that has seldom been so clear as it was yesterday. Both heartache and happiness paid their visits.
The Good: The storms continue after a long drought. We got a few beautiful inches by noon, with more forecasted today.

The Bad

The Bad: My mother forgot how to put on a pair of pants yesterday. The deterioration of her cognitive abilities is swifter almost by the minute. It was heart-breaking to watch her helplessly stare at a pair of pants on her lap.
As I watch her lose her mind, the caretaker's report was endlessly bad: She roams at night, yelling at people who are trying to sleep. She has lost her expensive hearing aid, and her false teeth are stained a brilliant orange for good, thanks to Tic Tacs. She struck the caretaker with her cane when the caretaker tried to help her dress.
When I talked to her about it, she said, "I know it's wrong! I'm sorry! I just want to go home!" For Mom "home" is heaven.

The Ugly

The only ugliness in my personal life is my mother's dementia. Everything else is beautiful. My hubby's enchiladas were made fresh for supper. The grandkids were here when I got home from Mom's, and they are gorgeously robust and lovely, full of laughter.

Father, please guide the search and rescue efforts in Haiti. Please hasten the aid and multiply the food and medical treatment. Bless all the people of Haiti, and bless those who reach out to help, like Dr. Jen who's working in the field.


Karen said...

Oh, Chris! I am so sorry for the pain you are going through with your mother. To watch a loved one slowly go away may be even harder than losing her suddenly. I pray for you and for your dear mother.

Scott said...

I pary for you and your mom Chris. This has to be difficult but I know you have the faith to get through this and be there with your mom and take care of business :-)

the walking man said...

Stay the course with no regrets Chris.

Tall Kay said...

I can only imagine how difficult this be for you watch your mom slowly lose her memory. We just love them the best we can for as long as we can.

We had a tornado yesterday! Streets are a mess. Even bigger storm coming...a little too much too fast! Stay dry today :o)

Kim A. said...

I had an experience with my mother 2 years ago (she was 66 and I 45). Her behavior and actions were so foreign to me and to our relationship that it has taken me 2 years to accept it, release her, and forgive myself. Take good care of yourself and you will be able to take good care of your mom.

Hugs..lots of them..


Brian Miller said...

it is scary to see our parents so...even just with my moms leg and taking care of her, it hits home. thoughts and prayers...and do take care of yourself.

Syd said...

Chris, I'm very sorry. My mother had some mild dementia at 95 but I saw what it did to many others there at the nursing home. I know how hard this is.

Akannie said...

I just love you so much....feel the hugs from across the miles...


Poetikat said...

I do pray for you and your mother, Chris. I know it's hard, but she will find her "home" soon and God will enfold her in his all-forgiving and loving arms.

Marcia Erickson said...

Thank you for your prayers offered up on behalf Jen and the people of Haiti. You are being used to lift good out of rubble.

marcia erickson